“Every human being wants to love and be loved. This is very natural. But often love, desire, need, and fear get wrapped up all together.
There are so many songs with the words, “I love you; I need you.” Such lyrics imply that loving and craving are the same thing, and that the other person is just there to fulfill our needs.
We might feel we can’t survive without the other person. When we say, “Darling, I can’t live without you. I need you,” we think we’re speaking the language of love. We even feel it’s a compliment to the other person. But that need is actually a continuation of the original fear and desire that have been with us since we were small children.”
~~Thich Nhat Hanh, Fidelity: How to Create a Loving Relationship that Lasts