…so why do we feel so strongly about what happens to a movie star who has no apparent connection to our lives? Two reasons. First, we know enough about her travail to identity with her and project ourselves into her situation. Here is a woman, who, like many of us, has wanted someone very badly, made mutual vows of fidelity and loyalty, and had that person leave for another lover — in this case, an exceptionally talented and gorgeous woman, who now lays claim to everything she (or we) ever wanted. There are few women who haven’t lost someone they loved — and they immediately take up her cause, and her feelings, as their own.
Secondly, we follow her life because in a strange way, it comforts us. If a man could be unfaithful to such a lovely, successful and nice woman, we can know that perhaps we weren’t left because we weren’t pretty enough or sexy enough or witty enough, but because some men just fall in love with someone else.
Or could it be that dating and marriage is simply a game we play to complement our egos? If we were totally honest about it, pretty, sexy and witty have nothing to do with love. If they do, we should call it something else to clear up the semantics. ~Chico