Create New Routines
After a divorce, men tend to overlook the little things. Two weeks might pass by until you realize you haven’t shaved. You might get home from work one day and realize you haven’t eaten one thing yet. You might forget to fill up your gas tank and stall on the side of the freeway. The emotions stemming from a separation, not to mention from the divorce process, can distract even the most focused of us.
Creating a new routine after a major break up or divorce can be the difference between falling into a pit of despair and finding happiness in your new single lifestyle. It’s important to face the facts; the relationship is over, the partnership is over, and it is time to take full responsibility for your life. All of the chores and tasks that used to be divided between the two of you are now your responsibilities. It’s a different reality than before, so making a routine to ease yourself into it will help.
First make a list of the things you need to accomplish on a daily basis. This list could include anything from taking a shower to cooking dinner. Add in the small things that are easy to overlook, like filling up your car’s gas tank or cleaning up the kitchen. Even something as simple as taking a shower can be overlooked. You might not realize the things you are overlooking until you actually list them out on paper. In this list, be sure to put time aside for fun, relaxation, and exercise. Next, make a list of the most important things you need to accomplish for the coming week. This would include important business meetings, doctor appointments, bills, etc. Try to expand this list to include your tasks for a few months into the future. If you are still working through your divorce, be sure to include important dates and tasks regarding those proceedings.