Guys, you need some kind of routine.

Create New Routines

After a divorce, men tend to overlook the little things. Two weeks might pass by until you realize you haven’t shaved. You might get home from work one day and realize you haven’t eaten one thing yet. You might forget to fill up your gas tank and stall on the side of the freeway. The emotions stemming from a separation, not to mention from the divorce process, can distract even the most focused of us.

Creating a new routine after a major break up or divorce can be the difference between falling into a pit of despair and finding happiness in your new single lifestyle. It’s important to face the facts; the relationship is over, the partnership is over, and it is time to take full responsibility for your life. All of the chores and tasks that used to be divided between the two of you are now your responsibilities. It’s a different reality than before, so making a routine to ease yourself into it will help.

First make a list of the things you need to accomplish on a daily basis. This list could include anything from taking a shower to cooking dinner. Add in the small things that are easy to overlook, like filling up your car’s gas tank or cleaning up the kitchen. Even something as simple as taking a shower can be overlooked. You might not realize the things you are overlooking until you actually list them out on paper. In this list, be sure to put time aside for fun, relaxation, and exercise. Next, make a list of the most important things you need to accomplish for the coming week. This would include important business meetings, doctor appointments, bills, etc. Try to expand this list to include your tasks for a few months into the future. If you are still working through your divorce, be sure to include important dates and tasks regarding those proceedings.

via After Divorce, Coping with Divorce, get over her now!.


2 thoughts on “Guys, you need some kind of routine.

  1. Well Liz, I am the leavee, and I’ve realized after a year or so that a bit of routine can be helpful. I certainly don’t intend on scheduling myself too much, but I did just decide to put some things on a weekly calendar that are good for me that I want to make a habit of: 2 nights a week watch a DVD movie, ride a few miles on my bike every Tuesday evening, sauna on Wednesdays, yoga at home one morning a week, and go to a yoga class Saturday mornings. At 60, I’ve never lived on my own except for brief periods between marriages; so what I did was proscribed by kids and spouse activities. I do visit my girlfriend every other weekend, but other than that, work is the only thing that runs on a schedule for me. It feels like I’m getting to the point where I need to establish myself in this single way of life in a way that’s more normalized.

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