I noticed today that I feel so much different now about marriage since I swore off of it a couple of years ago.
Out of some odd curiosity I looked at all the WordPress blogs under the category https://wordpress.com/tag/marriage/ and noticed that a lot of them had some sort of religious reference, for one thing. Otherwise they fell into categories of celebrating how long they had endured in that condition, or went on to list ways to mend the marriage or make it better.
I have an odd sense of humor perhaps, but it made me think of someone talking about their Cadillac and how it was the best car in the world and how it had changed their lives, but you really needed to psyche yourself up to drive it and be careful you don’t do certain things or it will break down and the repairs would be expensive.
In short, it reinforced the idea that marriage isn’t for everyone, and those that it is for now seem a bit off to me.
But I say that in a nice way, and don’t intend any disparagement to anyone that is married or wants to be married. A couple of my kids are married, most of my adult relatives are married, and I wish them all the best. And I was married – 3 times for 38 years married. So perhaps I should consider that I’m just as much “a bit off” as they are in that respect.
I haven’t been able to define it to myself precisely, but living in a committed relationship without marriage, as I am now, is distinguishably different. And I wish there were as many blogs about being unmarried together as there are for the married. Maybe it’s just that there are fewer issues for the unmarried? Maybe it’s more like owning a Toyota Prius that never has problems and gets great gas mileage, which helps you overlook the fact that the navigation system sends you to a completely wrong place once in awhile?
So I guess my point is, if you’re living unmarried to someone, write a blog. It might give married people something else to blog about.